1. occupiedmuslim:

    Inna illahi wa inna ila rajioon. From the Divine we come to the Divine we must return.

    my friend passed away earlier today. he was only 26 years old. when he was in his teens he decided to get his driver’s license and went to the DMV. a man pulled him aside and told him his social security number was fake and not to come again. confused, my friend confronted his family who told him he was undocumented and was brought to the us when he was a baby. his life crumbed in front of his eyes and he realized that he would have to live his life in fear and secrecy—never being able to do what his friends could do, or truly explain to them why.
    when he was in his mid-teens his family found out he was gay and was kicked out of his house. he ended up living and falling in love with an older man that abused and threatened him with revealing his undocumented status.
    later, he managed to escape his controller and set on realizing his dream: to complete college. in dc he found a gay imam who acted like a father to him and mentored him. he worked in restaurants and went to college on and off when he could strap the money together.
    i met him at a radical progressive queer muslim retreat where he was drowsy with hope and happiness in finding a family where he could be myself completely. we immediately became friends.
    despite the harsh hand that he had been given in life, you would have never known. he laughed easily, blush fiercely and would talk to me about his new-found muslim crush and his hopes. despite the conflicts he had with himself—battling depression, hopelessness, battling to love Allah and himself openly at the same time—he lived life with a burning and fierce hope. remarkably, his harsh past only made him kinder and softer. i am thankful to Allah, that She allowed me to witness the strength and beauty of his soul in this life.
    in the end this brother died of a disease that was treatable because he couldn’t get health care he needed due to his undocumented status. my boy died was dying and didn’t even tell anyone. he was a remarkable human being who was disregarded in this life.

    too often our siblings in this life are treated like shit, because we dehumanize them and hurt them with the narrowness of our hearts. we forget our communities are there to support and help human beings, not act like cults—shunning and kicking people out of their ‘utopias’, because people don’t conform to their liking.
    stories, lives—like my friend’s—are all too real and common. if we don’t talk about immigration, abuse, health care, homophobia … we are allowing our friends and families to die.
    InshAllah may Allah bless him with ease and comfort in the next life.

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  2. "

    “Loving the sinner but hating the sin,” is not even a micro-step forward. It’s deluding yourself into thinking you’re taking a step forward and being so Liberal, but in actuality, you’re rooted to your homophobia, staying in place.

    It also comes off as highly condescending, with a dash of, “I’ll pray for you,”

    Take your prayers

    and shove them where the sun don’t shine.

    Taking it one step further, I know there are Muslims who think being lgbt* is a “test” from Allah. And, in some ways, it is. It’s a test in the way that people treat us differently because of it. Not a test as in, “Well, God made gay people, but it’s a test and if you pass (pass, here, means, don’t touch another soul as long as you live and in some extreme cases, don’t think about touching another soul as long as you live), you’ll be rewarded in Jannah (heaven)!”

    That is also not progressive.

    Also not helpful.

    Stop it.

  3. Asalaam alaikum. I'm a queer Muslim trying to reconnect with my Muslim identity after pushing it away for many years. I identified more as culturally practicing than actually being religious and I'm still not sure how I feel about religion in general, but I've been reading more about it. I'm now more outspoken about being queer and Muslim and have come across straight Muslims who ask me what makes me think being LGBTQ isn't haram. I honestly don't know how to answer that question. Any tips?

    Wa Alaikum Asalaam 

    honestly, convincing cis hetero muslims that being LGBT isn’t haraam can be an uphill battle. there are many ways you can approach it, but i would implore you to take care of yourself when doing this and set boundaries. these conversations can be very triggering, especially when it feels like people are denying your identity or right to exist. So be careful with that. 

    Now, onto some ideas

    • for one thing, this tumblr is chaukled full of resources that explain from a theological point of view why being LGBT isn’t haraam. you could always pass it along to the people you are in conversation with and say “hey this is something for you to think about”
    • you can point out that hetereosexuality being an assumed norm in the Qu’ran and in the early stages of Islam doesn’t mean its the only norm nor will it be the only “acceptable” norm. many religions deny the existence of anything that doesn’t exist strictly within a cisgender heterosexual framework, yet history and gender theorists continue to prove the existence of gender and sexual minorities in several societies, arab and Muslim societies included. 
    • you can also point out that nowhere in the five pillars and six articles of faith is there a prerequisite for being a cisgender heterosexual Muslim. 

    Does anybody else have suggestions for how to have these conversations? I don’t want to be the sole person contributing this advice because we all choose to do things differently and handle these situations differently. 

    However you go about it, however you choose to deal with it, all i say is be safe and keep in mind that you may not be able to persuade people to recognize your humanity, but that doesn’t mean you stop living because of their shortcomings. 

    stay lifted! 

  4. Hey uh I have a question, if you may. I am a Muslim, obviously, who might be bisexual. How do I know if I really am bi or if its just a stage/phase. ( god bless this blog and other queer Muslim blogs <3 )

    honestly, i wouldn’t worry about whether its a phase or not. sexual identity and gender orientation are fluid and ever evolving for many people. the need to identify whether something is a “phase” comes from a lot of fucked up ideas when it comes to sexual orientation and gender identity within our society. we never ask heterosexual people whether their orientation is a phase or not, we just tend to naturally assume that heterosexuality is a norm, a permanent condition and all other identities are in constant flux, no matter how untrue that is. there are plenty of heterosexual people who one day realize “Hey this label doesn’t necessarily suit me anymore, maybe i should figure out what does” and subsequently go do that. 

    my point is, don’t waste your time thinking about whether its a phase or not. just enjoy your identity and keep exploring the depths of it in order to learn more about yourself. 

    anybody who attempts to engage you about your sexuality in terms of whether its a “phase” or not is doing so from a very fucked up place, whether they care to realize it or not. we really have to move the discourse of sexuality from “phases” to understanding spectrums and fluidity as concepts, cause there is a huge difference between the two. 

    i really hope this helps

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